Being unemployed is hard. Well, duh. Know what that can be worse? Being unemployable with an overpriced University education and crushing debt which will take me at least a decade to pay off, more so if said unemployment continue. Some people graduate with presents showered upon them like a reward for going through a terrible hardship. Others hold on to the end, the Walk as the solo reward for not falling apart or giving in to stress induced eating disorders, socially and financially induced mental/emotional problems or escapism of the drug and alcoholic kinds.
Even so, these doesn't matter. It seems to me that the real test of one's strength and sanity comes not from trying to graduate but from trying to get one's life started after all that tedious preparation.
Before I went to University, I had a Diploma in Film production. I then went on to secure a pretty decent job in a Post production house. But yet I still dreamed of working in the business side of Television. However it was impossible because I didn't have a BFA. So I was faced with a dilemma. Should I stay with my fast rising career in the post production industry as I had mastered all the specific technical skills or shall I take a chance, get heavily in debt and pursue a BFA which is the supposed gateway to more lucrative and desirable opportunities?
I honestly think that an education is necessary as Knowledge is power. I've learned how American politics work, which in turn allow me to be better informed when making decisions about things affecting my life. I've learned to be a better person to other people from all the blunders from unfamiliar socializing events/situations. I've learned self control and mental discipline when it comes to temptations. I know I'm lucky, I appreciate all I've been allowed to experience and I know I'll land on my feet regardless. Plenty of mistakes were made when I was in University but none I regret for priceless life lessons were learned but this current wasteland of dying hopes after countless cover letters and job applications might just do me in. I already have the ambition and the dedication - which is part of my genetic programming as exemplified by my relentless hunting - and have acquired the skills and the education, yet it seems it's not enough. I am extremely grateful to even be able to go to college yet right now, I can't help feeling indignant that it is costing me so much already both financially and mentally which makes my biggest fear about it continuing to do so till I no longer see the decision I made years ago as something I do not regret.
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Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
"I'll call you."
You would think that by now I would know what “I’ll call you” means. And yes, I think I’ve gotten pretty blasé about it. Blasé to the point that even I unintentionally started using the phase. However, I did not expect the familiar sting of thinly disguised but sometimes genuinely apologetic rejection to surface when I heard those words repeated again several times and all recently.
What am I talking about? Yes. Job-hunting. Or Job dating as I now call it.
A well-placed ad walks into the room and your eyes perked up. You look it up and down, reading and noticing the qualities that start your slide into attraction. The ad doesn’t see you yet so you dash to the restroom, primp your cover letter and remind yourself how absolutely awesome your…assets are. You stride out of the restroom and causally find yourself next to the intended. BAM, you’re talking, you’re impressing and gasps! The intended is listening AND smiling. You present your contact and walk away without looking back to exude well adjusted-ness. Then you stop thinking about the intended and start window whoring again. But before the intended leaves the room, it swings by your table and mentions that you guys should continue the conversation in a quieter room.
Heart skips but you only allow it one beat.
The initial excitement of the scheduling of the date.
The preparation of one’s image presentation.
The fleeting thoughts of how the possible commitment will affect one’s life.
The spark of the rapport during the interview.
Then, the words that needed to be said. “We’ll call you.”
You see, the rub is that I understand. I know that there’s only one position and as qualified as I can be, that is simply not the point. I may have awesome experiences. I may hit it off with the interviewer. But that does not mean our equation is the right answer. This fellow is seeing at least a hundred more other people who may have less stellar assets but when added to the equation of person +position it equals = pretty close to right. It could be a factor of many many things. A lusty animalistic fire of rapport during the interview instead of just a spark and even the simple things like the way she talks and the sound of her laughter resounding stronger in the intended.
Am I disappointed? Yes. Do I resent what happened? No. Why? It’s simple. Relationships between people are complicated and unique. Comparison is impossible. I wasn’t there and I wasn’t part of what happened. I will never know how that chemistry worked out to that person’s benefit. And there’s nothing I can do about it, be it about dating or a job interview. But ironically I feel less pain when it comes to dating. Because I don’t wanna be with someone who would want to be with someone else more. And if that someone is miserable with me or would be happier with that someone else, who am I to stand in the way? Something forced is not how Love works. And I’ll wish them all the happiness life have to offer because that rare and wondrous thing is the only reason why life is worth living.
But job interviews bring out the darkness. Rejection is harder to take because of the willingness to settle for less. You think you can do a better job than that person. You just want the job and you’ll be willing to work later into the night than that person, take a pay cut or even do things that you hate for it. And all that is placed on the flimsy “ I’ll/We’ll call you” possibility.
I don’t resent that there’s someone better out there for you. But I resent you using that line. Please, only say things if you really mean them.
What am I talking about? Yes. Job-hunting. Or Job dating as I now call it.
A well-placed ad walks into the room and your eyes perked up. You look it up and down, reading and noticing the qualities that start your slide into attraction. The ad doesn’t see you yet so you dash to the restroom, primp your cover letter and remind yourself how absolutely awesome your…assets are. You stride out of the restroom and causally find yourself next to the intended. BAM, you’re talking, you’re impressing and gasps! The intended is listening AND smiling. You present your contact and walk away without looking back to exude well adjusted-ness. Then you stop thinking about the intended and start window whoring again. But before the intended leaves the room, it swings by your table and mentions that you guys should continue the conversation in a quieter room.
Heart skips but you only allow it one beat.
The initial excitement of the scheduling of the date.
The preparation of one’s image presentation.
The fleeting thoughts of how the possible commitment will affect one’s life.
The spark of the rapport during the interview.
Then, the words that needed to be said. “We’ll call you.”
You see, the rub is that I understand. I know that there’s only one position and as qualified as I can be, that is simply not the point. I may have awesome experiences. I may hit it off with the interviewer. But that does not mean our equation is the right answer. This fellow is seeing at least a hundred more other people who may have less stellar assets but when added to the equation of person +position it equals = pretty close to right. It could be a factor of many many things. A lusty animalistic fire of rapport during the interview instead of just a spark and even the simple things like the way she talks and the sound of her laughter resounding stronger in the intended.
Am I disappointed? Yes. Do I resent what happened? No. Why? It’s simple. Relationships between people are complicated and unique. Comparison is impossible. I wasn’t there and I wasn’t part of what happened. I will never know how that chemistry worked out to that person’s benefit. And there’s nothing I can do about it, be it about dating or a job interview. But ironically I feel less pain when it comes to dating. Because I don’t wanna be with someone who would want to be with someone else more. And if that someone is miserable with me or would be happier with that someone else, who am I to stand in the way? Something forced is not how Love works. And I’ll wish them all the happiness life have to offer because that rare and wondrous thing is the only reason why life is worth living.
But job interviews bring out the darkness. Rejection is harder to take because of the willingness to settle for less. You think you can do a better job than that person. You just want the job and you’ll be willing to work later into the night than that person, take a pay cut or even do things that you hate for it. And all that is placed on the flimsy “ I’ll/We’ll call you” possibility.
I don’t resent that there’s someone better out there for you. But I resent you using that line. Please, only say things if you really mean them.
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